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| Relationship Closeness Scale |
| The Relationship Closeness Scale provides a means for opening discussion regarding any monogamous relationship. Rate your relationship on each of the following 14 characteristics by circling the answer that best describes your sentiment — Strongly Agree (SA), Agree (A), Not Sure (NS), Disagree (D), or strongly Disagree (SD). Take the survey separately and then compare the results with your partner. |
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| Regard: In our relationship, mutual concern, caring, and respect are freely expressed. We are generous with our compliments and our expressions of appreciation. |
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| Emotional Contact: We communicate easily and openly about emotional concerns. We find that we have similar emotional feelings about similar situations. |
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| Discussion: We willingly talk about matters of importance in our daily lives. Each of us knows what is important to the other at work and during leisure time. |
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| Compassion: We do not intentionally hurt each other's feelings. When we disagree, we discuss the issue fairly, without insult or accusation. |
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| Congruency: We both speak from the heart, always attempting to be genuine and to express our true feelings. |
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| Honesty: We avoid deception. We avoid keeping secrets from one another. |
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| Autonomy: Each of us maintains our own individual identity and self-system. |
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| Conflict Resolution: We resolve differences as they arise. We consider one another’s sides of each issue before making decisions. |
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| Affection: We are comfortable with our expressions of emotional closeness. We regularly and comfortably demonstrate affection. |
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| Mutual Concern: In making decisions, we both consider the impact of our decisions on the other. We both place the good of the relationship above any selfish concerns. |
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| Trustworthiness: We keep our promises. We can both be trusted to follow through on our word with appropriate action. |
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| Commitment: We both are firmly committed to the success of our relationship. |
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| Sexuality: We are comfortable expressing our sexual needs to each other. Our needs are met within our monogamous relationship. |
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| Loyalty: Our relationship takes a higher priority than loyalty to friends or family of origin. |
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| Be cautious that you not use this scale to blame anyone or prove anything. Change is easier when people feel safe from blame and reproof. Instead, use your answers as a basis for discussing what you would like to see changed and how you think changes can be made. Your answers can also be a basis for discussing relationship issues with Psychologicaladvice.com. |
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